ABOUT ME

I am a wife of the hardest working man I know, and a mother of three great boys. One “bonus” adult, smart and sensitive 10 year old, rambunctious 2 year old, and Christopher, our amazing 7 year old with congenital disorder of glycosylation. Life can definitely be crazy. We live in a house where toys and equipment take over every single space. There’s an adaptive chair on the floor next to a large bin of pinto beans that just so happen to also be camouflaged everywhere in the carpeting. Oh, and occasionally we still have a Christmas garland over the front door in the middle of July. Our house is lived in.

Shortly after Christopher was born I quit my job to stay home full time and care for him. When he wasn’t progressing developmentally and had a very difficult time holding his head up we just knew that something was not right. I spent many days and nights on my knees praying for him. I recall begging God for his brain to be healthy, and was terrified at the thought that it wasn’t. I was scared to get an MRI because somewhere in my being I just knew that my worst fear was about to come true. I’ll never forget the day his neurologist called me one hour after his MRI (you know it can’t be good news when they call you that quickly.) The MRI showed that his cerebellum appeared to be shrinking and within a few months he was diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder; Congenital Disorder of Glycosylation. It took us by surprise to say the least, and changed our lives forever.

Since his diagnosis I have tried to gain as much knowledge as possible about his disorder and I’m determined for him to be the best version of himself possible. He is followed by many specialists, many of whom have never seen his disorder before in their careers. Many parents of children with rare disorders will tell you that as a parent it is our job to be the expert. I am doing my best in becoming just that.

Writing has been a great outlet for me to share what I’m feeling and what our family is going through.  I am not a professional writer by any means, but I enjoy putting my thoughts on paper. Everyone has struggles and triumphs, and these are ours. I also love to bake! In recent years I’ve tried to find hobbies or outlets that make me feel good. Self care, right? And baking…and eating the yumminess are self care enough for me. 🙂

I look forward to sharing our joys and struggles with you, as well as a few laughs along the way. Thanks for being here. 

Melissa

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3 Comments

  • jody

    Melissa, I woke and cannot fall back asleep, but figured you may very well be up with Christopher. Or, sleeping and I will die if I wake you since sleep is precious and rare to you I’m sure. Your thoughts and feelings are so raw and courageously real. You are a special mom and God knew that. Keep shining your light, it casts a special glow in this dim world. God will provide, he is always faithful, he will give you strength and comfort when you have run dry. He knows what your purpose is, it is up to you to find it now. I am proud of your work thus far, parenting can bring you to your knees no matter the circumstance. Your journey is special and chosen. Embrace it as you’ve been and see where it leads you. You’re loved by an awesome God and me too.

  • Jenny Hodges

    I have a son with congenital hydrocephalus. It has been difficult sometimes. I agree with everything you said in your piece you wrote about the pandemic.Thank you for writing it.

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